Why we should all go to the psychologist (at least once in our lives)

We worry about our physical health, but not about our mental health. In fact, the very term “mental health” gives us chills and we still find it difficult to separate it from old mental or psychiatric sanatoriums that are very cinematographic. And yet, taking care of mental health simply means taking care of ourselves and developing our emotional intelligence. We tell you in this article why we should all go to the psychologist at least once in our lives and without having to suffer a mental, emotional or psychological disorder.

The fear of going to the psychologist

• The reality is that there is fear. To go to the psychologist and say that you are going to the psychologist. In the first place, because of that deeply rooted idea that crazy people go to a psychologist. Not so, obviously, but not everyone knows it yet. Even if you were “crazy” the ideal would be to be able to heal you, right? Crazy people don’t go to a psychologist, people who are lost, with no way out or with a problem they don’t know how to solve. Don’t tell me you’ve never found yourself in that situation.
• Another of the most heard theories is that psychologists don’t help you, they just take your money. That going to the psychologist costs money that we do not always have is true, given the scant attention that mental health receives from public health. That the psychologist is an autonomous professional with a business that he has to carry out is also true, but that does not mean that he is not there to help you. Their business, their job, their profession is to help others, just like doctors or firefighters, who also get paid for their work.
• And the most devastating of all theories to avoid the psychologist. I don’t believe in psychologists. Many people say it that way, as if it were an act of faith, as if the work of psychology professionals did not have extensive effort and knowledge behind it. They do not believe in psychologists placing them in the same realm of belief as god, fairies, spirits or ghosts.

When to go to the psychologist

Many people wonder when and why go to the psychologist. The list of reasons would be endless, but here are some reasons or situations in which psychological help could be very useful.

• With the death of a loved one to help you overcome the duel.
• When you have work problems such as frustration at work, less performance than usual or a dismissal.
• If you have any addiction, alcohol, drugs, gambling or even sex.
• When you are experiencing a couple crisis or in a breakup.
• If you have problems relating to others due to excessive shyness or low self-esteem.
• Situations of abuse or mistreatment.
• When you suffer from a fear or phobia that prevents you from doing some activities.
• When stress overwhelms you.
• If you regularly suffer from anxiety or uncontrolled crying.
• If you have outbursts of anger or anger that are affecting your social and family relationships.
• When communication with your partner or with your children fails.
• When you feel like you’ve lost control of your life.
• When you don’t recognize yourself or don’t find meaning in your life’s
• If you suffer from frequent anxiety attacks.
• If you have emotional pain regardless of whether the reason seems justified or not.

As you can see, not all situations involve a serious problem or a mental disorder and surely you have gone through or are going through one of them.

The benefits of going to the psychologist and why we should go

1. And what can a psychologist do for you? Well, first of all, help you. Psychological therapy will focus on one thing or another depending on the reason you go, but in general, you will find the same benefits as any psychologist.
2. A person who listens to you without judging you. If you think that a friend can also do this over coffee, let us tell you that the psychologist, in addition to listening to you, will give you advice based on your needs and your way of being.
3. Going to the psychologist is every opportunity to get to know yourself better but, above all, to understand. Understand yourself better, why you do things or why you stop doing them. Better understand what is happening, what is happening in your life and why you are dealing with it this way.
4. Learn to face the events that occur in your life in a healthier way. Learn to relate better with others, from the security that improves your self-esteem gives you. Claim your rights in relationships assertively. Communicate better.
5. The psychologist will help you manage your emotions. You will do the work, but having a guide to emotional well-being that ensures a future of mental balance is not something that you should ignore.
6. Modify behaviors that are hurting you. From clinging to the past to some addiction, going through the inability to forgive yourself. Keep in mind that many times you don’t realize these behaviors until they cause a major problem. Why wait?
7. Alleviate emotional suffering. This benefit is derived from learning to manage emotions, when that moment comes when you free yourself from those schemes that do not serve you and begin to see life from a different point of view.
8. The best benefit of going to the psychologist that we can even consider a gift is to be yourself. Be authentic, independent and sure of yourself. Accept yourself as you are, understand you, forgive you and love you.

The psychologist does NOT work miracles

1. It is evident that the psychologist is not going to work miracles. But he can help you improve your quality of life, don’t you think that’s little? Actually you have to keep in mind that a psychologist is not going to solve your problems, you will have to do that yourself. And that is what surprises people the most and what makes them often think that going to the psychologist is useless.
2. From this it follows that it is not just about your attitude as a patient, which should be active and not passive. Do not sit and wait for the psychologist to solve your life. It is also about being a good psychologist or not and, especially, whether you connect or not. Be careful in this aspect because for psychological therapy to give a good result, it must be done by a professional. If you are doubting between a coach or a psychologist, do not hesitate. Choose the psychologist.
3. Do you know what the job of a psychologist really is? A good psychologist will not tell you what you have to do or what you cannot do. A good psychologist will not just listen to you without intervening. A good psychologist may not give you all the answers you need, but rather he will ask you the right questions so that you can find those answers yourself.
4. Keep in mind that a psychologist is a person who knows the how and why of human behavior, how thoughts work, how emotions develop and how they give rise to reactions that will or will not hurt you. And by understanding this cycle of thoughts, emotions and behaviors, what you will achieve will be to alleviate suffering and find the path to well-being. Do you really think you have to be crazy to seek that help? Now do you understand the reasons why EVERYONE should go to the psychologist at least once in their lives?