How many times have you found yourself in a situation that you don’t know how to get out of? Surely many. How many times have you asked for help to get out of that complicated situation? Surely not so many. It is as hard for us to ask for help as it is for us to ask for forgiveness or even admit our mistakes. We believe that asking for help makes us weak. We believe that not asking for help is characteristic of strong people. And yet it is the opposite. Asking for help is synonymous with strength, not weakness. Need help?
When do we need help?
It happens to us in all areas of life: “I can do it by myself”. We say it all the time at work, at home with the family, with our partner, and even with ourselves. But we can’t always do it alone, we can’t always get through a breakup alone, we can’t always finish the job alone, we don’t always have time to handle all the daily responsibilities alone. And, above all, we cannot always overcome an emotional disorder alone.
When you’re down, you sure have your own tricks to cheer you up. But, what happens when you run out of illusions, when you get blocked, when you get paralyzed, when you just want to get into bed and let another day go by? It’s time to ask for help because if you don’t, tomorrow will not be better, tomorrow will be the same as today and depression is lurking to wrap you in it. How are you going to win that battle by yourself? Think twice, because you are braver than all that.
Why don’t we ask for help?
We all know when the time has come to ask for help, and yet we put off that request like those people who believe they have a serious illness and dare not go to the doctor to avoid facing reality. We don’t ask for help for many reasons that pertain to mistaken beliefs about our strengths and weaknesses.
- We don’t ask for help because it makes us look incapable.
- We don’t ask for help because it makes us look weak.
- We don’t ask for help for fear of receiving ‘no’ for an answer.
- We don’t ask for help because we haven’t yet acknowledged that we have a problem.
Why asking for help makes you stronger?
- It’s time to forget about those beliefs, like the romantic love of fairy tales and princesses that has done us so much damage in our sentimental life, and start considering our emotional life from a more realistic perspective. Asking for help is brave.
- Because it takes a lot of strength and a lot of courage to recognize that we have a problem.
- Because knowing yourself and knowing where our limits are being brave.
- Because going to another person is an act of strength and honesty, as well as improving our social relationships and reinforcing bonds of solidarity and trust.
- Because looking for a professional who can help us is already taking the reins and putting the means we need to solve the problem.
- Asking for help does not reflect your weakness, but your strength, your ability to analyze your vital moment and your courage to recognize your limits. Do not let time pass and ask for help now!