When we are children we all want to be adults to enjoy the privileges of adults, and when we become adults we would like to return to childhood to avoid responsibilities and problems. It is a normal feeling because adult life is not a path of roses, but when that desire to have the carefreeness of a child becomes an attitude towards life free of responsibilities and commitments, it is a psychological disorder known as the Peter Pan Syndrome.
The fear of growing up
- Peter Pan is that endearing fictional character who lives in Neverland. A child who never grows up and who can also fly, who reflects a reality of more and more adults: the fear of growing up. Peter Pan Syndrome appears in both men and women, but it affects a larger number of men, who tend to grow up overprotected by their family environment.
- We are talking about insecure people, dissatisfied with what adult life offers them, frustrated because they cannot live with the carelessness of a child, of a fickle character without knowing exactly what they are looking for, unable to take responsibility for a family or to maintain a job. And of course, totally unable to commit to a relationship.
- We are also talking about selfish, egocentric and narcissistic people who, like a child, need constant attention and a lot of love. Jovial and with a permanent smile who carry the proposal of living the present to its ultimate consequences. Funny people who know how to enjoy the pleasures of life like no one else, but when they are attacked, cornered by unavoidable obligations, or when someone reproaches them for their irresponsible attitude, they are capable of showing their cruellest and harmful side.
Consequences of Peter Pan Syndrome
- A man with Peter Pan Syndrome carries many risks, because he is the potential ideal man and it is very easy to fall for his charms and his proposal to live life to the fullest. In it you can find all the characteristics that you value most in love: adventure, fun, passion and intensity. But he also contains all the types of men that you should avoid, because he is a toxic man.
- The consequences of Peter Pan Syndrome are clearly seen in a couple, where he is able to make you live the happiest early stages of falling in love. But if you try to go one step further in the relationship, at best he will run away. And we say in the best of cases, because he may decide to stay in a relationship in which you will be in charge of satisfying all his material and emotional needs and providing him with the security without responsibility that he needs.
- Although the risks of this Peter Pan Syndrome are not only for the people around him, he himself may fall into a state of depression because he cannot fight the passage of time. Because his dissatisfaction will increase as life presents him with obligations that are increasingly difficult to avoid. The cure? It only depends on yourself.