Men complain that they don’t understand women and women complain that they don’t understand men. At least we agree on something, which is still a good starting point. But if what we don’t understand about men is their behavior, men directly don’t understand what we say, we don’t know if it’s because we don’t use the same language or simply because they don’t listen.
Interpret female language
- It is true that women and men have different ways of communicating. While men use more direct and simple communication, women tend to use subtlety so as not to do as much damage. That can create some confusion as to the true meaning of what we are saying. But let’s be real, if after a while, your guy still hasn’t learned to interpret your most typical phrases, it’s not that he doesn’t listen to you, but that he is dealing with an attention deficit-like disorder.
- So it’s not women’s fault that men freak out when they hear “honey, we need to talk. ” Of course, that phrase can mean the end of the relationship, but also, that you have to paint the floor, that your mother is coming to spend the weekend, or that you are going on vacation with your friends. So it is best not to dramatize and accompany the phrase with a facial expression according to the positive or negative meaning that is going to be given.
- All those times we say “nothing is wrong with me” when it is clear that it is, it is because we are not sure that our partner wants to listen to our problems. And that is the litmus test to see if that man is worth it or not. If he gets “nothing” and turns away, he has no intention of getting involved.
Speaking the people understand
- The truth is that there is nothing like communication for a couple to work and if it is accompanied by companionship, much better. That is why it is typical for women to say “tonight you choose the movie”, a phrase that men take literally and cannot understand why then we deny one title after another of all those they propose. It is about making decisions between the two of us and what we are doing is a practical exercise.
- Then there are all those myths and misinterpretations that men make of feminine phrases. That mythical “I have a headache” is not an excuse not to have sex, but a subtle way of saying that we are bored with committed sex and want something more exciting.
- It is true that we also use some phrases that are misinterpreted, such as “do what you want”, “I’m not angry” or “don’t worry”, but the question is in the ability of the listener. And of course, we must make it very clear that no matter how much we women use subtlety and double meaning, when we say “no” that is exactly what it means.