Shy people do not even realize that over time they have created a series of negative automatic thoughts that keep them tied to their shyness. Shyness can be overcome and one of the best methods is to transform thinking. Discover the power of positive thinking to overcome shyness.
Thoughts that help you stop being shy
Sometimes we boycott ourselves in the pursuit of happiness. Shy people cannot enjoy social encounters and live in insecurity, fear and anxiety. We can stop being shy if we manage to transform all those thoughts poisoned by shyness.
- The first thought that we must change is that ‘I can’t do it’ for a ‘and why can’t I do it’. This helps a lot to make the decision to leave home, to go to that party or to show up at a family event where they didn’t even expect us anymore.
- One of the most faithful companions of shyness is low self-esteem that generates thoughts like ‘I’m not worth it for this’. This sentence can be transformed first by ‘I’m going to try’ and then by ‘of course I can do it’.
- One of the negative emotions that shyness generates is shame or a sense of ridicule. If we often think ‘I’m looking stupid’, it’s time to change that thought to ‘the world doesn’t end because I’m wrong’.
- The insecurity of shyness makes us very dependent on the opinion of others. Instead of thinking ‘they’re going to think I’m boring’, we can change it to ‘those who don’t like me, don’t look’.
- Many times we feel self-conscious in a social situation because we demand too much of ourselves. The moment a thought such as “I have nothing interesting to contribute” comes to mind, it must be quickly changed to “I am special”.