Maybe you have a friend who buys fabulous shoes every week as if she were Carrie Bradshaw, another who just posted vacation photos on Facebook with a dark-haired man who is hot, and another who just invited you to her wedding. How do you feel? If you want to be in their place but you are happy for them, it is likely that their happiness prompts you to find the path that leads you to have everything that they have and you do not. But if his life is reflected in your dissatisfaction and a feeling of frustration, it is likely that you are going through an episode of harmful envy. And that has to go.
Profile of an envious person
- There are many people who are clearly envious, but few manage to recognize that they are under the influence of this negative feeling. Envy is one of the disguises of insecurity and low self-esteem, although with a touch of arrogance that is what leads to suffering. Because there is a suffering of the person who is envied in the form of attacks, criticism and contempt; but the envious also suffer, because dissatisfaction does not disappear by the mere fact of insulting others.
- In this way, egocentric, selfish people, or those who need to be the center of attention are more likely to feel envy, especially if there are some shortcomings in their personality such as frustration, dissatisfaction or a feeling of inferiority. It is clear that people who like themselves and promote their personal development do not feel that harmful envy for the belongings or the way of being of others.
- In any case, you have to be very careful with these envious people because their dissatisfaction usually becomes harmful in the form of offenses, rejection and even revenge for not achieving what they want. So if you meet someone who is envious, get out of their way, but not before feeling sorry for their life full of frustrations and complexes.
Stop feeling envy
- But it is likely that more than once you have felt that negative envy in the face of the successes of an acquaintance or a co-worker. And surely you have reproached yourself for that discomfort arising from the happiness of others. Don’t worry, because the truth is that envy is a natural feeling. All you have to do is learn to transform it into healthy envy.
- Healthy envy is an engine that pushes you to achieve your dreams and achieve your goals. If your friend got that great job, you can do the same. But keep in mind that a dream cannot be achieved without effort. So the first thing you have to do is get to know yourself, your qualities, your potential, your possibilities and above all, distinguish what your true desires are.
- Because your friend may be immensely happy with her husband and her two children running around the garden and, surely, you would love to have the same happiness, but are you sure that your needs are the same? She thinks of yourself and what really makes you happy. And now look at what others have achieved to show you that dreams can come true.