A breakup is always more painful for the one who is abandoned, that is, for those people who involuntarily have to face the sadness of heartbreak. In the midst of this tragedy, the breakup is always more bitter when the person you love leaves you for another. In this case, you can find out the news because your ex confirms it to you or because someone close to you tells you that he has seen him with another girl. In other cases, it may be feminine intuition that leads you to conclude that you have had a very strong rival in love.
Situations of this type produce sadness and impotence. In the wrong way, some girls tend to compare themselves to their ex’s new girlfriend. It is convenient to relativize this issue, that is, in essence, it does not matter that he leaves you for another person or that he simply cuts you off because he no longer feels the same as before. Here are some tips to deal with a situation of this type.
Tips to get over an involuntary breakup
- Get on with your life and focus on yourself and your world. That is, continue with your work or with your studies, rely on your friends forever, make plans that make you feel good and respect the time you need to grieve to recover. It is normal for you to be sad, hurt and disappointed. It is also normal that you have anger, but you must channel the anger and focus it on the strength you need to smile at life again.
- Cut any ties with your ex. Avoid the temptation to find out what his life is through Facebook. Do not remain anchored to the past more than necessary. Do not look for blame for the situation either; that is, do not channel your anger against the new girl since she, in essence, is not responsible for what has happened. These things happen, and love is not always eternal. Stay with the good of your relationship; I’m sure that as the months go by you can see everything with a new perspective.
- Don’t get hung up on the fact that your ex already has a partner. It’s his life and his story but you don’t need to emulate his steps from him. Do not allow your sentimental situation to influence your self-esteem, since having a partner is not synonymous with being happier. Solitude can help you get to know yourself better, it gives you the freedom to make plans without having to explain yourself to anyone… In fact, you need that time of solitude to truly recover.
- Take care of yourself. Bet on your independence and your autonomy. The happier you are, the easier it will be for you to trust love again in the future.
- Your value does not depend on what another person thinks of you. That is, you are a valuable girl and at some point you will find a boy who truly values you and is worth it. If the boy you like has left you for another, just think that he is losing a fantastic woman next to him.