The relationship as a couple needs constant care, because it is easy for us to let our guard down when we live together and assume that our partner knows how much we love them. Reminding your boy how important it is with an “I love you” every day would not hurt to strengthen the relationship (and incidentally his self-esteem) and keep love alive without falling into routine and disappointment. But one of the problems that usually come between a couple is a lack of attention and, therefore, low self-esteem, which is why it is important that your boyfriend feels valued.
Value your partner, you will gain self-esteem
- We take for granted that you love your boyfriend, that you are sure that you want to spend your life with him and that he has become one of the most important people in your life. But does he know? Our daily behavior does not always show how much we love our partner, quite the contrary, especially in those moments when we allow ourselves to be invaded by a bad mood. And that can create some insecurity in your boyfriend about his role in the relationship.
- In addition to making it clear that you are an independent woman capable of fending for yourself and that you gain emotional strength every day, you have to make it clear that you are immersed in a relationship because you love and value the person next to you. If you like the way he is, what he thinks, what he does and how he does it, he is the first person you have to tell.
- Remind him every day of all those things you like about him and the reasons why you are with him. In no case are we talking about raising his ego for free, because we already know how men spend it when they feel too important or fundamental, but it is necessary to reinforce all his qualities and that he notices that you appreciate all the effort he puts into the relationship.
Attitudes that harm your boyfriend’s self-esteem
- You also have to be careful with all those attitudes that are a direct attack on your partner’s self-esteem, even if they don’t have insecurity problems. Gestures that we sometimes do without realizing it and that end up damaging our partner’s morale. At no time can you sabotage the complicity you have because it can destroy the relationship.
- That is why it is convenient that you do not contradict him in public, or reproach him for personal matters in front of other people. You are her partner and you support her, so if you disagree with something she says, it is better to wait until you get home to express your anger. Also try to highlight all his values, his work achievements and his personal abilities by showing yourself proud of him.
- Showing yourself as a united couple in front of people is an attitude that, at first, may seem somewhat hypocritical. It is true that all couples have their disagreements, but these incompatibilities have to be resolved at home, not in front of others because it is still a matter of two. If your boy perceives that you support him, he will feel more valued and confident to continue with the relationship.