“Whoever has a friend, has a treasure”, is an idea shared by men and women alike. However, as occurs in the field of love, where men and women understand sentimental relationships in different ways, friendship also presents differences according to gender. This does not mean that we value the importance of friendship differently, but rather that we do not understand what a friend is in the same way.
What do men look for in a friendship?
- Friendship is an affective bond that unites two people, and this is the same for both men and women. We know that men are less likely to express their emotions, we don’t know if it’s a biological or educational issue, but the fact is that a man doesn’t need a friend to cry on his shoulder.
- Friendship between men is based more on camaraderie and sharing common interests, be it football, musical tastes or a passion for DIY. Surely many times you have wondered what your boy talks about with his best friend; Well, they can talk about politics, movies, work, sex, even about how well (or how bad) your relationship is going, but they will rarely delve into the realm of emotions.
- The way in which a man turns to his friends when he has an emotional problem is not the same as that of women. If he has a lot of confidence with his friends, he will comment on the problem in passing and if they really are his friends, they will pay him on the back as an encouragement, but without going deeper into a conversation to try to solve it. the problem.
What do women look for in a friendship?
- Women, on the other hand, turn to our friends for support, comfort and advice. Because the first step to solving a problem is to verbalize it, and that is what distinguishes us from men. Once we get to talk about what’s bothering us, we feel better and the relief is shared with all the friends.
- The affection of a friend is essential for a woman, as is the approval of friends, perhaps because of that tendency we have to feel guilty about everything. In this way we find in our friends the fundamental support to feel more sure of ourselves. Complicity is also important; If we are about to do something crazy, our best friend will warn us, to immediately join and complete the stupid thing in question.
- Actually, there are certain values of friendship that are universal, such as affinity, understanding, comprehension, complicity and, especially, love. In this way, what is distinguished in the concept of friendship in men and women is that consolation function, which women can recognize, but men cannot.